Relational Ownership in The Black Community

Interraicial dating goes both ways, black men.

As far as everyone on the planet knows, I am a lesbian. I've dated womyn inside and outside my race, and (most) of them were wonderful. It is not that I purposely seek to date outside my race, it just simply that race isn't a factor.

Many black men have become bitter over black womyn's participation in womyn's liberation movements, and criticism of black men's marginalization of our issues. This has caused them to date interracially out of spite, with little to no interest in the womyn they date, or just lack of interest in relationships in general. This is dangerous for their psycological and relational health — but that is not the oconcern of this piece.

There is this odd stigma against interracial dating within the black community (from both men and womyn), which I've tried to understand, but I simply just couldn't. Why is it, that we must OWN each other to be united as people? Why should every aspect of our lives rely on our race, to define our identity as black people, but nothing more? Yes, our race defines our struggle, but not every fiber of our being (or atleast, it doesn't have to). Black men are the ones to attempt to use interracial dating as some kind of weapon in an arsenal of harmless weaponry against our existence.

Nothing.
Black men should be able to love anyone. Including OTHER black men.

My problem with black men, is that they so desperately attempt to scare black womyn into submission, by threatening to date interacially. Even as a lesbian, I find this offensive. To them, we are still seen as weak, and in need of some kind of coddling, or discipline (from them!).

We are not so easily scared, to fall on our knees at your every whim, because you say you will date white/Hispanic/Latina/Asian/Native/(generally foreign) womyn. This does not scare us, and we are not owned by each other. You are always free to date whomever you please. It isn't your duty to purposely seek out, only black womyn as your companions.

Everyone deserves love and companionship, but nobody should have to be forced to give that. The image above, came from the (now closed) anti-womyn site "Mayor of Black Town", preaching hatred in the black community against other races. Why would anyone believe that black men are obligated to date and marry black womyn only (and vice-versa)?

We do not need to reinforce power structures, and the ideas that we are "kings" and "queens". We are simply human beings, and we have to act like it if we really want to be taken seriously.

Islamophobia ≠ Racism

Muslims are a diverse group of people. Not a race.

I've recently discovered the phenomenon of the misuse of the term "racism". Apparently, the hatred or fear of one religion, is somehow equivalent to the prejudice or discrimination directed against someone of a different race based on the belief that one's own race is superior. But what about christianity, or judaism? What about buddhism or taoism? I hate all religions equally, so I guess that make me racist, right? No, it doesn't. It just means I abhor these doctrines and their systems.

To claim that someone is "racist" because of their hatred of a certain religion, is absolute bullshit, and even conveys me to leave me fist where their face is, or dragging it against the cement in attempt to cleanse the world of the stupid parasites who do this, without knowing the effects of what they do. I've never wanted to hit someone so hard.

Mostly behaviour engaged by uppity white liberals, that think they're so supportive of diversity and multiculturalism, they have never experienced genuine racism. I remember one time, I was a the bus stop, and I had my music up loud. I put my earbuds in, so I wouldn't disturb the people around me. Some of the people sitting and standing beside me could hear what I was listening to, so I turned it down a little. A 20-something year old guy turned around to a woman I believe to be his friend and says "Chaos always follows niggers wherever they go...", and she giggled.

He may think that I didn't hear him, because I ignored that. What he did, was attack my race. Not my culture, not my religion. My race.

When someone says something like "muslims are terrorists..." their attacking the religion. Not the race. If they were to say "arabs are terrorist..." then THAT would be racism, and would be appropriate to say that person is a racist.

When people attack islam, they're attacking this:

Religion

Not this:

Race

Liberals today will argue, that "many people believe muslims to be of arabic ethnicity!" But this implies, that they are using racism to fight what they believe is racism. Stating that someone who is "islamophobic" is racist, implies that islam is confined to a certain race of people, and is in and of itself fucking RACIST! Not only that, but when they say these things, they marginalize the issues that people who actually experience racism face. But it seems that they don't care, because they don't experience the downside of their actions.

The affect of racism in the west is very prevalent, but it isn't taken seriously, because of bullshit like this. As a former muslim, and a WOC (womyn of colour), denouncing these behaviours does next to nothing, simply because of the new victimology that is always being created, which prevents people like me, from erasing "victimization" from my culture.